Dear Vi,

I have a problem. I am a bartender at a nice restaurant in Seattle. I love my job. I even like my boss. But he shows up practically every shift I work and takes a bottle of wine. He tells me to charge it to the guest. I don't know what to do because I fell that he is cheating the customer. I don't want to rock the boat and lose my job.

Sign me,
Guilty in Seattle

Dear Guilty,

You and I both know that what your boss is asking you to do is unethical. Sadly, the restaurant business like any other industry has people, like you boss, who practice unethical behavior. Ethics are learned in three places: the home, the school and the workplace. Unfortunately, these are also the places that can teach us unethical behavior. Tell you boss that with all due respect you cannot morally charge the customers for bottles of wine that he consumes. If he doesn't like it, start looking for another job. You'll be better off for it.

Our responsibility to weave an honest fiber into our daily practices and to demonstrate what is right and wrong outweighs our responsibility to make a buck.