I've written before about reptiles vs. mammals, and how I'm a mammal and need to be more like a reptile.
I think I've over adjusted. In the past month I've been nasty to several people when they didn't live up to my expectations. As a mammal, in the past I've always let things slide as bit too much here, and it's cost me. I've worried excessively instead of dealing with the issue. I'm not seen as leader material. A reptile would deal with the issue and resolve it. So that's what I've been doing, but not in the best way.
You don't have to be mean and nasty to be firm. You just have to state what your goals are, make sure people understand them, and ensure all understand the consequences for all if the goals are not met. Work to ensure success so failure doesn't happen.
Now I can blame several factors here - I'm REALLY stressed out both by work and personal factors. I'm ill and jumping the gun. Etc. All this is true, yet a leader (IMO) has to be able to set these things aside when communicating with others.
So to those of you out there that actually read this and have seen my dark side, my apologies. I need to work harder in this area.
I think I've over adjusted. In the past month I've been nasty to several people when they didn't live up to my expectations. As a mammal, in the past I've always let things slide as bit too much here, and it's cost me. I've worried excessively instead of dealing with the issue. I'm not seen as leader material. A reptile would deal with the issue and resolve it. So that's what I've been doing, but not in the best way.
You don't have to be mean and nasty to be firm. You just have to state what your goals are, make sure people understand them, and ensure all understand the consequences for all if the goals are not met. Work to ensure success so failure doesn't happen.
Now I can blame several factors here - I'm REALLY stressed out both by work and personal factors. I'm ill and jumping the gun. Etc. All this is true, yet a leader (IMO) has to be able to set these things aside when communicating with others.
So to those of you out there that actually read this and have seen my dark side, my apologies. I need to work harder in this area.
So, you need to be less Darth Vader and less Obi Wan, and more like Luke?
The first sign of a good leader is someone who recognizes his limitations and works to correct them. Seems to me you are doing this. Remember, you are talking about changing a part of you that has been a certain way (mammal) for most of your life. As an ID you know how long it takes to change a pattern as ingrained as that. It is only natural that in trying to change a pattern of behavior that is so ingrained you would swing to the other side of the pendulum (reptile). Keep at it, you'll find the right balance for you.