Marriage is a tradition that many cultures and religions practice. Marriage symbolizes the unity of two individuals and is usually acknowledged by a ritual, such as a wedding. Some individuals believe marriage is a life-long commitment and have followed the tradition of taking their vows before God. Family is an important aspect of a marriage and the dynamics of a family can vary, such as a blended family. According to Henslin, "the United States has 60,000,000 married couples, and only about 1 million of them obtain divorces in a year (2009, p. 350)."
According to the 2009 edition of the World Almanac, there were an "estimated 2,205,000 marriages performed in 2007, compared to 2,193,000 in 2006." Being married for several years now it is very clear that communication, friendship, and support help maintain a successful marriage. According to Susan Boon, a social psychologist, research has proven that "little things matter," such as saying "I love you" or giving one another compliments. The small gestures will help to keep a marriage alive.
Today, life can be very busy and it can be easy to get caught up in life's demands, so it is important to express how someone is appreciated and loved. According to Susan Boon's research, "A long-lasting, happy marriage is about knowing your partner, being supportive, and being nice (Davis, 2006, p. 1)." Furthermore, Boon's research suggests that keeping things positive (attitude, thoughts, words, etc.) helps to keep a marriage functioning well (Davis, 2006, p. 1). Boon explains, it is difficult to remain positive and nice "when the heat is on," "when you're really angry," or when something has happened repeatedly (Davis, 2006, p. 1). Humor is a good way to help diffuse a heated situation or disagreement (Davis, 2006, p. 2).
According to Dr. Kosch, "most marital conflicts don't ever get resolved (Davis, 2006, p. 2)," and "couples that have good marriages retain their mutual respect and understanding of each other- even during discussions of their differences- will stay together much longer (Davis, 2006, p. 2)." WebMD offers the following advice to help resolve conflict: pick a good time for both to talk, talk in a nonthreatening voice (be nice), remain calm, take a break, and consider the others point of view (Davis, 2006, p. 3).
I have been with my husband since November 2004 and we were married on July 7, 2007. It has been difficult to learn how to communicate to each other when we disagree, but we have had great role models around us to help guide us. I believe the number one reason our marriage is successful is due to our faith in God and our commitment to our vows, but the human side is balanced by communication, support, laughter, compromising, agree to disagree, and commitment to get through the good and the bad times. In my opinion, all relationships need to have good communication and mutual respect of one another in order to continue to grow.
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