If you are dating someone or if you are married, think of reasons as to why you are with that person. What first made you attracted to that individual? Is it because they have a friendly personality, a positive attitude or even good looks? If you are single, think of your good friends. How did you become good friends with these people? In the branch of social psychology, there are many theories and principles that illustrate why certain people "fall in love" with each other or why certain people interact and become friends.
According to the interpersonal attraction principle, social psychologists have identified several major factors that influence interpersonal attraction which is anything that draws two or more people together characterized by affection, respect, liking, or love ("Interpersonal attraction," 2010). In the initial attraction of two people, what matters first? Many factors leading to interpersonal attraction have been studied. The most frequently studied are: physical attractiveness, propinquity, responsiveness, similarity and reciprocal liking ("Interpersonal attraction," 2010). According to these five factors, we like those who live or work near us (propinquity), we like those who are physically attractive (physical attractiveness) and similar to us (similarity), we like those who are responsive to us (responsiveness) and we like those who like us (reciprocal liking).
Now think back to your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife. How did you first meet them? According to the factors listed above, you probably associated yourself with him or her because they constantly near you. You might've also associated yourself with him or her because they were attractive. If you are single, think of your good friends. Did you become close friends because you live or work near each other? Did you like your friends because they were similar to you? Propinquity, physical attractiveness, similarity, responsiveness and/or reciprocal liking are factors that--more than likely--played role to the interpersonal attraction of your friends, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, etc.
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