Love at First Sight: The Speed of Love


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"The moment I saw him..I felt love, I felt happiness from nowhere, my heart beat to see him again and again."

Many have claimed that they have experienced "love at first sight" but is it really possible? Studies show that falling in love only takes as long as 3 minutes or even as little as a fifth of a second! Others argue that you need time to develop a connection as strong as love. Maybe the hopeless romantics are on to something.

"Falling in love can elicit not only the same euphoric feeling as using cocaine, but also affects intellectual areas of the brain. Researchers also found falling in love only takes about a fifth of a second."

In one study on friendship, people who enjoyed the first few minutes together were likely to develop a close relationship. Another study says that love at first sight is all about appearance. People tend to mate off of physical appearance. We relate with others based on similarities whether it be education, our jobs, our music interest, we choose our partners based on similar qualities we see in one another. Studies show that appearance is another factor that we try to see similarities in. 'Scientific' beauty, as we all know, is based off of symmetry.

David Perrett, cognitive psychologist at the University of St. Andrews, thinks that we are attracted to physical qualities in others that are similar to our own because it reminds us of our parents. After developing a computerized system that morphs faces, he had participants choose which face they find most attractive. The face that was chosen the most often by the participants was an image of their own face that has been morphed into the opposite sex. Perrett explains that we find our own faces attractive because they are a reminder of what we constantly saw growing up which are the faces of our mothers and fathers.

Statistics actually find that a lot of people who claim to have experienced "love at first sight" have a successful relationship. "In research outside the USA, between 11% and a whopping 43% of people said their long-term relationships began that way; one American study found that 55% of the respondents who had fallen in love within moments of meeting had married that person. "  So, is love at first sight real? I'd like to believe so, but can love be measured?


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This is an interesting topic. To be honest I've always wondered if it is possible to fall in love at first sight but I've always been skeptical.
I have heard before however, that girls tend to choose guys that remind them of their fathers and your explanation makes sense.
Also, I recently read and blogged about an article that links the genes of symmetry to the genes of intelligence because they are both related to developmental stability which is according to the article "essentially the accuracy with which the genetic blueprint is built". So the theory is that a person who is "scientifically" beautiful is likely to also be more intelligent which leads the person to be more attractive overall. So if the theory about love at first sight being based solely on attractiveness is true then these people who have a higher developmental stability are more likely to have someone fall in love with them at first sight.
Going to your last question, I do not honestly believe that love can be scientifically measured because that would first require to have a working definition of love and then a way to measure something that is intangible.

Here is the link to the article :http://www.nytimes.com/2012/10/23/health/if-intelligence-is-the-norm-stupidity-gets-more-interesting.html

This is a really cool topic but I never believed in it. When I first saw my ex boyfriend, I didn't expect to fall in love. We started out being good friends but it definitely wasn't love at first sight. It took a while to get to know his personality and who he truly is and that is what I fell in love with. Although I was physically attracted to him, I didn't see him in that light when we first started talking. There are many different books, songs, shows, and movies that have the topic of love at first sight which goes along with your blog post and they are pretty interesting. I think that love at first sight is possible, it just will depend on the person and how you get to know them.

This is a really cool topic but I never believed in it. When I first saw my ex boyfriend, I didn't expect to fall in love. We started out being good friends but it definitely wasn't love at first sight. It took a while to get to know his personality and who he truly is and that is what I fell in love with. Although I was physically attracted to him, I didn't see him in that light when we first started talking. There are many different books, songs, shows, and movies that have the topic of love at first sight which goes along with your blog post and they are pretty interesting. I think that love at first sight is possible, it just will depend on the person and how you get to know them.

I very much enjoyed this post. Not sure if I believe in love at first sight; I've been in love before, but it took time to get there and wasn't an instant thing. I guess for some people it is though!

I thought the most interesting point that "we are attracted to physical qualities in others that are similar to our own because it reminds us of our parents." That's an idea I've never heard of, and personally I don't know if it's true for me because none of the guys I have ever dated with have similar physical characteristics as me. I wonder how much of a role personality traits play in finding someone "similar to our parents." And why do we want to find someone similar to our parents anyway?

Your point about the most beautiful faces scientifically being symmetrical reminded me of an article I read in a magazine a few years ago. It talked about that very theory and then put the faces of various celebrities to the test-- to see which one was considered, "scientifically," the most beautiful. This isn't the article, but here is a link that demonstrates what certain celebs with non-symmetrical faces would look like if they were symmetrical.

http://www.youbeauty.com/face/galleries/face-symmetry-of-celebrities

I don't really believe that you can fall in love with someone from just looking at and seeing them. I think that when people experience "love at first sight," it's more like attraction at first sight. While I think it is obviously important that you're attracted to the person you love, love is much deeper than just that. I just don't see how you can love someone with out actually knowing them. I think it's just one of those things that I would have to experience myself to believe it!

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