Why everything you think about anger is wrong


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You've seen it all over Hollywood, all over TV, and you are taught this in life. You must release anger before it builds up inside of you and eventually explodes! Many many people believe they have to release their anger to prevent it from building up, people punch things, scream, and lash because they feel like it's the healthy way to release anger. This is called the steam engine theory made up by Freud and it basically says that a human is like a steam engine, and anger is like steam which builds up and eventually just explodes.

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According to a team of scientists at Iowa State, there is no evidence to support this is true, they say that when you're mad, the healthiest thing you can do is try to calm down. 

What do you think? I personally agree with them that that is the best way to calm down. People live by these philosophies, and facts, and they don't really know where they came from. For example people feeling like they have to hit something to get rid of anger, why? Why do we think this? Where did it come from? It's interesting to look at life from that point of view. Question everything and accept nothing blindly as fact. 

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"For example people feeling like they have to hit something to get rid of anger, why? Why do we think this? Where did it come from?"

I thought about these questions and I honestly could not think of an answer. What I do think is, society has somewhat programmed us to think that releasing our anger by lashing out is okay. From what I've experienced, lashing out only makes someone more upset.

You said that you agree that the best way to get rid of your anger is to calm down, but how does one calm down? The site you listed mentions things such as controlling your temper and walking in the other person's shoes, but do you think someone who is extremely upset is actually going to do those things?

Going along with the idea that people believe that they need to release their anger before they blow up, what do you think about people who don't believe in releasing anger, and instead of calming down bottle everything in?

I definitely agree with you that the best thing to do is to try to calm down. When people get angry and all riled up, they sometimes do crazy and very regrettable things. In my opinion, boys are especially violent and are more likely to get in physical fights when they are angry because it's considered "manly." To me, this is stupid and makes them look like idiots! Of course, bottling everything up inside probably won't help and will only cause more anger. What should people do to calm down? Maybe go on a walk or run, write down their thoughts, listen to music, or talk about it with someone. These are all healthier ways to release anger.

I think when someone is angry letting it out by yelling or hitting something relieves the tension they have but not necessarily the actual anger. I think it comes naturally in some cases when you're angry. I did a little research to see and I found an intresting article on why people swear whenever they are in pain. Not the same exact topic of this blog, but in the article psychologist Richard Stephens of Keele University in England said that "Swearing is such a common response to pain that there has to be an underlying reason why we do it," so maybe there is an underlying reason to why people follow Freud's theory of releasing anger before it builds up.

heres the link to the article I found-http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=why-do-we-swear

I like the question about why we have the desire to hit/throw things or yelling. I think it goes back to the desire to want to heard when you're angry. We get loud and make sure everyone around knows exactly how we feel. Maybe it's a way for us to work out the stress from the inside out. Maybe it's something you must dispel. Whenever I get angry, I go for a nice long run. Dispelling the negative energy makes room for good feelings. Great post!

"Going along with the idea that people believe that they need to release their anger before they blow up, what do you think about people who don't believe in releasing anger, and instead of calming down bottle everything in?"

- Like it says, anger isn't something that can bottle inside of you and explode. Just like if you are very happy and you don't show it, you won't eventually break down and start smiling uncontrollably. With anger though, when people are angry at someone, if they don't find some sort of resolution to the problem, every time they are faced with that problem it will continue to frustrate them. Perhaps more and more each time because the problem keeps coming up and not being resolved. Like me for example, I usually can't let an arguement go with someone until I know they understood my point of view, even if I turned out to be wrong, I still want someone to understand what caused me to think the way I did, and things like that are ways to calm down.

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