Why Men Cheat


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Cheater, cheater, pumpkin eater. So, why do men cheat? Yes, there are women who cheat as well, but I'm not concerned with them because I don't date women. However though, I have been cheated on. Yep, by my ex-boyfriend and that's why he's my ex. So, why do men cheat? I figured if I'm going to find any kind of information, it doesn't get more real than from Oprah one and only website, oprah.com. According to a study conducted by M. Gary Neuman, approximately 2.7 million men will cheat and their significant other will never find out. In his recently published book, "The Truth About Cheating", Neuman surveyed a wide aray of loyal and cheating husbands to find out the reasons of why men cheat.


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Neuman believes that "Ninety-two percent of men said it wasn't primarily about the sex. The majority said it was an emotional disconnection, specifically a sense of feeling underappreciated." As everyone knows, it always varies in ever case. Some may just be down right jerks... and that's saying it nicely. 

He also goes on to say how men are being that love to win. So in order to secure a relationship, make the man feel like he is winning with everything he does for you, ladies.  Neuman also found that 88% of guys cheated on their wives with women who were no better looking or in no better shape. And only 7% of men will tell their wives before getting caught.


Although this article does provide a lot of useful information, men cheat for all sorts of different reasons. May it be due to a mental illness where they believe they need to feel a "high" in order to feel okay or just because they are a plan scumbag.

 

What do you think?

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Great post. Wow. I can't believe that such a small percentage of men would come forward about it before being caught in the act. I honestly just don't understand why men do it. It makes more sense to leave the woman than to cheat. If they aren't satisfied with the relationship, why do they string it out? Or perhaps they think they can get away with having their cake and eating it too. In my opinion though, there is no reason that would ever make cheating okay. It's just downright wrong.

Great post. Wow. I can't believe that such a small percentage of men would come forward about it before being caught in the act. I honestly just don't understand why men do it. It makes more sense to leave the woman than to cheat. If they aren't satisfied with the relationship, why do they string it out? Or perhaps they think they can get away with having their cake and eating it too. In my opinion though, there is no reason that would ever make cheating okay. It's just downright wrong.

Cheaters! no one likes them and this blog encouraged me to do some follow up research. According to a study of 500 pairs of Swedish twins, some men just aren't made for monagamy. A research team gave their participants the AVPR1a gene which controls a hormone that contributes to attachment behavior with men and their offspring. All of the participants were either married or cohabiting for at least 5 years. The results revealed significantly lower infidelity for the men carrying either one or two copies of allele 334 than for those without it. The study also showed being faithful may be hereditary. I know the numbers add up but I believe if a man wants to be faithful he will be and blaming your genes isn't a good excuse.

I'm sorry that you were cheated on, but that's no need to assume that men are scumbags. For example, I've never cheated on my ex girlfriend (but NOT ex because I cheated), and I know that I never could. However, I do have a friend who has cheated on his girlfriend. Since I don't really understand why either, I asked him about it one day over break, and he told me that he was "bored, uninterested, and it just kind of happened". Maybe young men are more predisposed to cheating because "they want to have fun". But if having a girlfriend is hindering your fun, then why do you have a girlfriend? Maybe the answer lies in biology and evolution. Are men predisposed to cheating? I don't know because I'm not an evolutionary biologist, but according to medicine.net, humans aren't meant for monogamy. Culturally, we may be raised to believe that we're supposed to stay loyal to one person, but in some cases, I guess a clash of culture and scientific theory happens. Still, it's important to keep in mind that not all men cheat, and eventually, people grow up.

Me and my roommate actually talk about this all the time. My roommate had once seen a documentary on a scientific channel, I think it might have been the Discovery Channel, about why humans are prone to cheating. It actually explained that cheating has an evolutionary basis and that men are prone to cheating because they are constantly on the lookout for somebody to reproduce to. It is in their inherent nature to reproduce with a female and then move on to the next, whereas it is in women's nature to want to provide for her family.
Even though men may be predisposed to cheating, it doesn't make it any easier when it happens to us : /

I think what's really important to note here is this statistic: "88% of guys cheated on their wives with women who were no better looking or in no better shape." If this is true, which I think it very well could be, it explains that men are a lot more like women than we may have thought. If men aren't getting the love or attention from their supposedly more attractive girlfriend/wife, their need to feel loved and supported may overcome commitment and lead them to find someone who makes them feel better. Not an excuse, of course, but a possible method to their madness. This article, however, cites a man's tendency to cheat as a possible evolutionary development. We know that, after all, it has always been more acceptable for men to cheat than women (think The Scarlet Letter). Again, not an excuse.

I agree with Nicholas. Not all men are scumbags. While granted I will have to agree that many men are, there are a few who are good. I've been in multiple relationships where the roles have been reversed on me and I was the one cheated on. I have many of the same feeling that you ladies have. I do not in any way believe that cheating is right or excusable.
If you are in a relationship and you need to have other people to be happy or have fun or what ever excuse you would like to use, you should have the decency to end a relationship before cheating on your significant other. One thing that has always bothered me though is if women like the big though guy jerk types and then they are cheated on why are they surprised? I do believe that cheating could be part of evolution for human preservation back in the day. However that is not an excuse in any way, shape, or form that someone would have the right to cheat. Kristi and all other ladies who have been cheated on: I would like to apologize for the 'scumbags' who had no right to do what they have done. Even though I don't know any of you, I don't see any reason for any man to cheat on you. In most cases I would say that the guys who did the cheating were really really dumb to have done so considering, from what I know about you ladies, that any half way decent man would not have cheated on you. But please don't believe that all men are scumbags. They are the guys that ruin the reputation of us good men that respect the commitment they are in. I don't think that any person should ever be cheated on, but I guess that's like asking for world peace. I really hope that you ladies can find someone who isn't a 'scumbag' because not all men are.

I agree with Nicholas. Not all men are scumbags. While granted I will have to agree that many men are, there are a few who are good. I've been in multiple relationships where the roles have been reversed on me and I was the one cheated on. I have many of the same feeling that you ladies have. I do not in any way believe that cheating is right or excusable.
If you are in a relationship and you need to have other people to be happy or have fun or what ever excuse you would like to use, you should have the decency to end a relationship before cheating on your significant other. One thing that has always bothered me though is if women like the big though guy jerk types and then they are cheated on why are they surprised? I do believe that cheating could be part of evolution for human preservation back in the day. However that is not an excuse in any way, shape, or form that someone would have the right to cheat. Kristi and all other ladies who have been cheated on: I would like to apologize for the 'scumbags' who had no right to do what they have done. Even though I don't know any of you, I don't see any reason for any man to cheat on you. In most cases I would say that the guys who did the cheating were really really dumb to have done so considering, from what I know about you ladies, that any half way decent man would not have cheated on you. But please don't believe that all men are scumbags. They are the guys that ruin the reputation of us good men that respect the commitment they are in. I don't think that any person should ever be cheated on, but I guess that's like asking for world peace. I really hope that you ladies can find someone who isn't a 'scumbag' because not all men are.

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